Quote: I don't want to move out of my bedroom really not point either since h usually doesn't make it up to bed if at all (when he does it's usually not til the wee hours when he wakes up) most nights he falls asleep on the couch
My bf also stays up way past me most nights. When he was drinking (he quit six months ago) it was virtually every night, and he would also fall asleep on the couch. Now he doesn't fall asleep there, but he does stay up on the computer or watching tv until 1-2- or even 3 in the morning. It makes me absolutely furious! I feel that it is another way of avoiding sex. I don't think that's his primary motivation; I think he just needs the time to himself (I understand that) and he's a night person (I also understand that). But the fact is that he does avoid sex this way.
Regarding consequences: whatever you do will have consequences for everyone, but think of this: the way he is being now has consequences for everyone, too. Can you really live this way forever??
