Dear gg, I echo the voices of those before me when I say welcome. Thank you for having the courage to share your story in such detail - sometimes writing the sequence down can bring a bit of clarity. As you take steps in this new season of your relationship (meaning, your husband is living up north for an indefinite amount of time), I would encourage you to to use the time to invest in yourself. I see that you are retired, so find activities which fill your time. This will not only expand your personal horizons, but it will also help ward off the temptation to be myopic about your relationship. If you haven't picked up the book, Divorce Remedy, this could be a great place to start - it is packed with helpful ideas/suggestions/revelations which you will no doubt find helpful. Finally, be kind to yourself about bringing up the letters. To quote the bard Billy Joel, "we learn more from our accidents than anything we could learn in school." The important thing is that you dust yourself off and get back up. And please do post more as you continue your journey!
