Wii: I read that on your thread. I wish my daughter could do your nutrition evalutation (she is studying nutrition at school)> She is doing 14 total evalutations and must complete them before graduating in August. She analyzes everything and offers suggestions on dietary changes. I was her first "victim". She goes to school in Mississauga. Thought you'd find that interesting.
So cockroaches and maggots kind of go together, right? Actually, what I've read of your ex - she is not a parasite. She doesn't fit in the same category but still - she split with you and to me that makes her the biggest loser!
I gave Ashley some space. Some time to think about her actions (after suggesting to her that perhaps her coming to Florida this weekend was not such a good idea as I was not feeling an ounce of appreciation or respect). She cried. She apologized. I let things ride. She apologized again. Then I called her tonight and she was a totally different person.
It's a rough road sometimes. I don't know who she is sometimes. She was NEVER like this before the family fell apart. Now I just feel we're so dysfunctional at times.
Still - speaking my mind very clearly and sticking to statements about ME seemed to help. Letting her know how "I" felt by her words and actions. Telling her what hurt ME. Then backing off and giving her time to respond. Then not saying much. Giving her more time. Yes - this seems to have helped.
My son's assessment that his sister's behaviour and especially his father's is "odd" seems to be right on the money. If problems persist with Ashley - further counselling might be in order for both of us.
