When I got home from work today, W was in a mood. She said twins were terrible at school, and got in trouble on the bus. If they get in trouble on bus one more time, they will not be allowed to ride bus anymore this year. By trouble, I don't mean anything big like fighting or bullying, just switching seats, not sitting down, stuff like that. But, they must follow the rules and they were not and they should have to own up to their behaviour. She then says that youngest son, 3, fell off stage while she was running volleyball practice and hurt his head and was complaining his throat and neck hurt. He was sleeping in living room and I went in to check on him. I picked him up and he started crying pretty hard. He said his throat hurt. W came and got him and asked me to finish with twins homework. She said she would give him a shower and put him to bed. S3 kept crying and I could hear him in the bathroom while I was in the kitchen w/older boys. W called me to come in to bathroom and told me to look at his arm. Well, his arm was fine but his collarbone was sticking up and swollen pretty bad. It took everything in me not to start yelling right then and there. He had been hurting since three in the afternoon and now it was seven o'clock and she said she checked his head, arm, neck, and back but not his shoulder or collarbone. WTF? She took him to the ER and I am at home w other three kids. One twin is afraid Mom blames him because he wasn't watching his little brother good enough at practice. W told him it wasn't his fault, that it was hers and she should have been keeping a better eye on him. When she left, he started crying and I told him again that it was not his fault. He said Mom was mad. I told him we were both mad that they got in trouble at school and on the bus, but it was not his fault that his brother got hurt. He is Mom's responsibility not his. I want to say "I told you so." As I said in my earlier thread about my sitch, W volunteers coaching v'ball and track at school. She takes kids with her and then complains if they don't sit still and get their homework done and watch their little brother. I told her she was taking on too much and she said she enjoyed it. I know I should have taken a stronger stance, but she works part time and I could see where it might be good for her. Then the s*&t with the super, finding any excuse to be at school even when it doesn't involve our kids, and now this. God, I am so pissed! At myself more than anything. I should have made her quit doing so much and focus on our kids instead of letting them watch themselves. Maybe this will make her see the light, but I doubt it. I know I can't say too much now or it will seem like I'm trying to get her away from the super. My kids safety and well being come first! We can't afford a babysitter so she can do all this, and I guess she can't watch the kids and do practice like she says she can. "I can handle it" she says. I have started seeing a few positive signs lately and don't want to lose what I have gained, but the kids have to come first.
W just called, he has a broken collarbone.
I will tell her to make a choice: out kids or your v'ball and track teams. If she can't wait until kids are older and can take care of themselves, then I guess that tell me what is more important to her.
