I did have one friend that told him that talking to OW and seeing her was hurting me. This was before the OW's family got that letter. He told my friend that he had stopped talking to her, but for some reason (he couldn't explain) he didn't want me to know that. I think it's that control issue he blames me for. And according to the phone records, it did stop for about 2 weeks. However, since the letter it has gotten worse then before. I think I will stop checking for now. I know they have other ways of talking such as IM and email that I can't track any way.


Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10