How do I expose the affair

[flowmom]

mb, your H is in an A and unfortunately this is going to take a loooong time to work out if there is a chance for reconciliation. I'm worried that you're getting sucked into the minutiae of "affair busting" and affair monitoring. This is not healthy for you.

I feel like such a fool with them talking like that and me still wanting to work on the M.

Your H is the fool. We all know that.

I did pretty good at GAL this weekend and had a ton of fun. But I have bday coming up this Thursday, and I'm not sure I'm up for celebrating. Sorry just a really depressing day.

hugs to you mb. I've had a lot of lame birthdays...but not this year! I posted this in Kalni's thread:

My birthday is 3 days after yours and I've made plans with 3 friends to go out to dinner and listen to jazz. I'm going to look sexy, I'm going to have fun, I'm going to have my friends make a fuss over me, and I'm going to do something that I haven't done in years. Your birthday is your day and no one can take that away from you. I challenge you to plan a birthday for you, with all the energy and love that a doting mother would devote to doing that for her child.