I must we must have been posting at the same time as I've just noticed your comments.
Quote: Why don't YOU do something about it? If he's not willing to play the game, then make a drastic move. It seems like your H only responds to drastic measures anyway.
Move out of your bedroom, or something like that. And tell him that these arrangements will stay as is until the kids are older and you can move out.
I don't want to move out of my bedroom really not point either since h usually doesn't make it up to bed if at all (when he does it's usually not til the wee hours when he wakes up) most nights he falls asleep on the couch and I quietly "leave him there to rot".
I've already expressed to him that this is not the kind of m I wish to have for the rest of my life. The kids keep us both here. He was already out once (of his own doing). and is unlikely to leave again unless legally forced and that wouldn't be pretty.
Quote: I think that your H makes no permanent movement toward change because HE DOESN'T HAVE TO. There are no consequences.
What consequences could there be that wouldn't also be consequences for the children and myself?
