Not worried about angering her. Anger is good. Shows she still cares about something.
I try to bring truth to her each chance I get. And she does NOT like it. So, I will keep doing it.
We have a joint checking account, and I watch it. I can't change the funding around b/c there is a standing order in D cases in my neck of the woods that says we have to maintain the status quo pending resolution by the Court. SHE is under the same order. Step out of line, and she'll be talking to the judge.