No words of wisdom here. Just wanted to say that I am where you are. My H is definately hiding emotionally and I am also trying to determine if that is because he has to in order to maintain his tunnel vision. He will readily acknowledge the tunnel vision and even sometimes the hiding. He then refuses to discuss how they relate to sex except to shrug his shoulders like "it can't be helped." I too am working on establishing the concept of scheduled sex (I've done ok on some occasional date nights).
