Maybe having a little communication is a good thing. At least it allows me to see just how little respect she has for me.
Brief recap from a couple of weeks ago. I spoke to W to suggest she have her L send my L a settlement proposal - b/c I literally have NO IDEA what she wants/expects. This would save us several thousands of dollars if we could resolve pre-mediation. She says she would talk to her L.
A week goes by and nothing. Then, on day 8, her L calls mine and asks for mediation dates!!! So, W doesn't have th guts to tell me this in hte same manner I went to her to suggest we try to resolve our issues.
So, tonight, I went to the doorway of her bedroom, where she lives these days and said I guess I should assume you have no interest in trying to resolve our D short of mediation. She responds with "Nothing has changed since we spoke last." Did I say she is the master of "Nothing has changed?" Anyway, I pointed out that her response was not an answer to my qiestion and asked her if she was comfortable not simply telling me herself that she would not discuss settlement pre-mediation. She said she did feel comfortable having her L tell mine.
I knew she was a quitter, but never thought, until now, that she was a coward as well.
I told her we would be dropping another $8,000-$10,000 in mediation. Her response was "I didn't think I would spend that much." That's the problem sweetie, you aren't THINKING. She literally has asked her L to tell her "what is customary in these situations." As if our M is a car wreck case or something!!!
So, my W, who has always projected a strong, independent image, cannot make a simple decision and would not think of making that decision. Instead, she has her L do that for her.
And, yes, I am venting some here.
All the while W is telling me how comfortable she was in the way she isn't communicating with me directly (sweetie, when we exchange the kids post-D, you gonna have your L drop them off with me or do you think you will have the stones to do that?!), she shows utter disrespect for me. Anger, contempt and disdain. And I NEEDED to see that.
