Do I wait until she is served before I expose? Should I wait until the spousal support portion of all this gets started and then use exposure as a bargainning chip?
In your case I would wait until the day you file. Your self-preservation comes first.
If I remember correctly... weren't you the one that ran the risk of losing spousal support if she file a restraining-order against you? Yep. So... why are you playing with fire? What use would it do to threaten her? Threats provoke reaction, and her reaction will be less than desirable. Bargaining chip? What are you bargaining with? To get back into your home? To get her back? She's high on 'love' man and deep in it.
Gno's rules of thumb:
1) Protect yourself and your future first 2) Then expose to break the affair 3) Then fight for your marriage if you are still so inclined.
