Questions for The DB'ing Pros - Help!

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Maybe I am trying too hard, I don't know, --- I have really been GAL and spending lots of time out with friends, going skiing a lot, going to the AT&T Golf last weekend. Maybe she is mad at me that I am having fun. Isn't that what your suppose to do ?? I think it may be working in reverse for me here.

The point of doing those things is for you. So that you feel better, that you don't sit around moping and pining. I imagine you had some fun doing those things? I notice there are periods of time when I don't think about my H./M and am happy.

When she moved more stuff out last week, she left me a short note that said that she had noticed I had moved things around in the house and had taken down pictures of "US" so she felt it was time to move some more stuff out! The she said in a second note (different color ink, same note) that she had not heard from me for 2 days so she dropping the dog off and would talk to me on Sat. She also crossed off the word "some" stuff and put "my" stuff ??? - So se seemed pissed.

Just not sure if I am screwing up or what --- like I said, I will see her tomorrow and I think she is going to drop the next "d" bomb on me.

NSD

My take is that W is peeved that you are moving forward and not pining away for her. Changing 'some' to 'my' sounds to me like a hurt reaction. I would imagine that the absence of 'we' pictures burst W's bubble in some small way. I get the sense [in general, not just you] that WAS has silly notion that LBS will just wait indefinitely until they chose whether or not to come back. I think that when WA sees little things like that, it plants a little bit of doubt.

I don't think you are screwing up M by moving forward w/your own life. At this point, how much, if any M do you really have? Your W will drop D bomb if that is what she wants. You don't have any control over that. But how can you possibly just remain still, stagnant? I mean in the sense of your own well-being.