There are so many things here....

A marriage does take two
but you married for better or for worse

you shared a hobby that continues
funny
was there some sort of promise thing in there that said she would stop the hobby when you did?

KS Chick and I both have been married and are success stories
we saved ourselves
if not our marriage
we are better people than we were at the beginning of the journey

you aren't looking at your own part
you seem eager to blame someone else for stealing those years and time that you put into it (like your WIFE is some sort of stock certificate or something...you invested so much and expect so much in return)

to steal a line from a movie:
nut up or shut up

you either have the balls to look at your own part of you don't

blame will get you nowhere fast