A marriage does take two but you married for better or for worse
you shared a hobby that continues funny was there some sort of promise thing in there that said she would stop the hobby when you did?
KS Chick and I both have been married and are success stories we saved ourselves if not our marriage we are better people than we were at the beginning of the journey
you aren't looking at your own part you seem eager to blame someone else for stealing those years and time that you put into it (like your WIFE is some sort of stock certificate or something...you invested so much and expect so much in return)
to steal a line from a movie: nut up or shut up
you either have the balls to look at your own part of you don't