You are handling so many aspects of your sitch at once, and so well, my mind just boggles. Moving. Selling the car yourself (and yes, that is HUGE!) to file or not file; tuition $--honestly, I bow down to you for dealing with so many issues at once.
I won't offer any advice, as I have none, but I can comment on the strength you are projecting in your posts. I am thrilled for you that you have friends on both coasts, who also seem to know single men! I think you will do just fine in CA, and maybe the file/not file will just become more clear as the days go by.
I wanted to tell you that I signed up for The Work on the Web. $30/3 months. I found I couldn't do the worksheets myself, but going thru it step by step online really helped. Then I splurged on a facilitator--just spent 1 1/2 hours weeping as we went thru The Work (is there NO end to the tears??? maybe if I dehydrated myself I could stop crying) I don't feel cured yet, but she assures me time/growth/Work will work. If you can't afford the facilitator, do try signing up for The Work on the Web.
I look forward to hearing about your westward ho journey. How are you getting out there? You will do well where ever you land.
