quietly watching....need help

[Gardener]

gardengirl,
Well, Gardener just had to respond to gardengirl even if to just say hello!

You are in the right place. You might also want to go over and read up on the MLC (midlife crisis) forum because it seems like there's a lot of that going on here.

I say seems because, to be honest, I read about 1/3 of your post and skimmed the remaining 2/3. I've been dealing with some serious insomnia and just posted about 4 times, each time saying, "Okay, last one, I gotta get to bed."

And then I see "gardengirl"? Well, that's gotta be one more post! (even if not much of one).

But it can be awful putting that first post "out there" and minutes start to feel like hours until a reply.

Read, Read a lot of Newcomer posts (and MLC) and see if any particularly resonate with you or resemble aspects of your sitch.
Read the Divorce Remedy book. Read "Quotes Found on Divorce Busting II" near the top of this Newcomers list.

Others who are wiser (and less tired than I am) will be along shortly. This is a great community as you probably already know from lurking.

I'll come back and read it all tomorrow.