Hi guys, Well I guess the argument could easily be made in either direction. File or wait (or simply send email which may prompt something). I agree email makes sense b/c it's not pushing anything yet, but still letting him know I accept the situation and laying out a few things on my terms. I am so encompassed by moving right now that it's not front and center for me (this cleaning out feels good, I must say!). Moving is stressful enough so do I want to deal with D/potential filing across the next 1-2 weeks I am here? Keep thinking 'what's best for me' and chewing on it. When I'm busy and GAL not think about so much, other times I do. I feel like in many ways I have been 'moving on' without the formality yet. Does it hinder me from moving on? No, not totally...but it feels like false comfort in many ways too.
A tad confused about one thing said above Pearl that seems contradictory: "if it won't hurt you legally and emotionally to wait then I say to wait", then "personally I think you should file". ??
I'm not 100% at the point where I would file, but when/if we do it would be joint, and I'm OK with that. No use fighting something he's dead set on anymore. What I've got to do first is send the email...if it opens something up - likely - I can't blame myself or regret it b/c truthfully he's where he is anyway. Maybe it would be a good thing to stand up for myself a bit more in this situation. I feel like I'm doing fine now, but I also know this move will be a bit emotional in many ways - part empowering, part letting go/loss. Yes sometimes we just need to jump! -hhh (BTW - I've start meditating to a great video each night...it is super helpful and I recommend to anyone going through this stuff - it is Sarah Powers Insight Yoga, she has a wonderful 30-min meditation on acceptance and being in the present moment). I bought on amazon last yr and it's been wonderful.
