I'm trying to do a Puppy Dog and "plan for the worst."
Worst: he moves into one of the apts. with new sweetie.
Worst: I spend all my $ on court, and lose.
Really unfortunately, I think under VT law, not being married, my L is giving me the cold-hearted truth: the assessors will look at who most "earns" the house, and the jilted woman argument won't really come into it. Funny way to regret not having married the guy (in addition to all my other regrets about not marrying him) If this was a D, you betcha the affair and my suffering would count.
You are right on the desensitization part. Keep looking at crap, and pretty soon some crap looks good.
One option: a total wreck just a neighborhood over. 50K. I bet I can buy it for cash for 40K and do a tear-down. My friend the timber framer who built the beautiful workshop which will be the MAIN fight/reason for X to have the house (oh, the irony!) immediately got excited about building me a lovely little tiny energy efficient timber frame. He laid out a whole timeline that would have me in the house by November.
As it would be NEW, and designed by ME, I wouldn't have to put up with the wall to wall and the vinyl. I'm going to look at it on Thursday.
Oh, but more irony: to get permitting to tear down, check on set-backs, see if the garage in back can be turned into a mother in law apt--have to go before the Design Review Board. GUESS WHO IS PRESIDENT of that little town political group? None other than dear old X. hahahhahah. Anyhow, he would of course have to recuse himself from any debate over that. But not fun, anyhow.
Next post: facing the beast at town meeting. Meaning: go to town meeting with a posse and face X and OW. As my therapist said: choose the time and place.
