I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[Quart9]

Not to mention all the smoke he's been blowing up his W's tailpipe and letting her think she is a failure. Who knows how much he has been blaming her and running her down with emotional abuse about how useless she is and how she never made him happy...

You should know this Q9... you've been on the receiving end of this from your W. How did it make you feel to be told you are the cause. The decent thing to do for her is to tell her the truth so she can have a chance to rebuild the self-esteem that OM has stripped away.

OM may be telling his wife these things, but we don't know that for sure. What if she cheated on him and that is why she is out of the house (supposing she is not a dumba$$ and moved out like I did because he manipulated her to)? OM W has a diff address than him (and it is less than 2 miles from their main home address).

I'm pretty sure they were separated before OM and my W met. Why would he be on a cruise without her? I agree though, OM W has a right to know and I am happy to tell her. I have her home phone number and I know her FB profile - it seems it would be better to contact her on FB?

Should I expose them to where they work together? Should I expose OM to his reg job?

BTW - appoint with attorney is next week to begin process.