My H called me after work today to ask and let's just say that things didn't end as well as they could have. I have probably driven him away. We talked for a bit though - we talked about his day, the tax paperwork (which he could not find), he asked me about a couple of sweaters he was looking for, his certified mail, and then he asked when were we going to talk about the D. Well, this just hit me AGAIN like a ton of bricks.
He says he is not interested in reconcilitation talk. I asked him if he had secured a lawyer. He said no, because we "need to divide up everything and put together a separation agreement" before he secured a lawyer, otherwise it would be just a waste of money to put a retainer down now. Then he said, it is in "the best interest of both of us to get this done." I asked why and he said because he did not want to go to Afghanistan with "our situation" on his brain.
Oh, but once again, he continues to ask for my help with everything, which I have always supported. My husband has NEVER been able to locate something he is looking for, even if it was right under his nose. Now I have to scan and fax military forms (that was in the certified mail) and email to him for him to sign and send back to reserve command.
The only positive thing that happened is that my H talked to me for a long time (longer than normal), even though he was upset that I did not want to have the D talk. He even called back to remind me to scan and email the forms and we talked a bit more. Says he does not want to come home because he does not feel good here. I feel that he dislikes me so much that he can't stand the sight of me and that is why he will FILE for D.
I have to go DARK. Now is time. Can someone tell me if this is righ to do at this point?
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
