lost-I haven't read your whole thread so not sure what to tell you but I went through a similiar situation with my H in Nov. We were still together but I knew about OW. He had his phone with him the whole time too. The nurse made him give it to me before he went in to have a stint put in and I think that about gave him a heart attack. I didn't even look at his phone...I didn't want to know!

I didn't go to the test with H but did go to the hospital when they admitted him and again for the surgery. Hope all turns out ok!

M48 H53
M16 T18
S16 D13
SS30
H drops bomb PA/8-30-09
H leaves 12-30-09
D filed by H 2-10
H asks to come home 4-11
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