22 days? Wow, time flies when someone else is being tortured....you can do this FIB!!
It's Jack Bauer time....22 days? Pfooof!! Piece of cake -- after all this time...
That's right, I said after all this time it is A PIECE OF CAKE!!
Start humming your fav song to yourself and getting through each day knowing it's a day closer to purgatorial living being OVER....and your new life just starting. I'm excited for you. Nervous? Yeah sure. But I have a feeling your life is about to begin Frank, you know? It's been on hold for too long now. Your turn is coming. Hang in there. You can do this. You are doing it.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Thanks all. I thought about going over to fltc's thread but I'm not sure I want or need to read about more suffering at the hands of an unhappy spouse.
I can guarantee all that STBXW will doing EVERYTHING possible to besmirch me and make me look like a bad husband/father. I'm going to have to have a teflon skin. I've seen STBXW in court in front of judges before....they get weak knee'd. Big bad professional hiding money in off shore accounts. Poor blue collar blond haired blue eyed cute mom.
I don't look forward to going under the microscope in public, but, it's a journey I must go thru to close this door. I just want it done and to start over. NY divorce laws really hurt people.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
But don't lose heart about the law too too much. Sometimes we L's or even judges have our moments. You never know. Have no expectations but hold onto some hope.
j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Some employees bought their boss a gift for his birthday. Before opening the gift, the boss shook it slightly, and noticed that it was wet in the corner. Touching his finger to the wet spot and tasting it, he asked, "A bottle of wine?" His employees replied, "No." Again, he touched his finger to the box and tasted the liquid. "A bottle of scotch?" His employees replied again, "No." Finally the boss asked, "I give up. What is it?" His workers responded, "A puppy."
The moral of the story.... even if everything is pissy, something's great around the corner.
You can do it... well.. except for blowing out the candles.. now that's tough! Happy Birthday!
Thanks all. Thankfully the decay is still slow. LOL. Tonite will be bowling with my kids and my nephews across the street, then, IHOP (all you can eat pancakes today).
Court Update
I will continue to keep my thread open and updated until the final decree is signed:
STBXW's motion to have me 'punished and purged' for contempt of court (thrown in jail) for my inability to pay her court-ordered legal fees failed. A money judgment was awarded against the sale of the house. Penalties were cut in half and added in so I don't have to pay anything up front right now
Temporary sole custody and sole residential occupancy of the house was deferred to trial (whew)
3 subpoenas issued: me, my office manager and my CPA. My L will make a motion to have some things adjourned as all this is past the time of discovery
L is going to file a motion for sanctions against STBXW's atty for being punitive (continues to request the same things over and over).
It's almost done, although, I DO expect to find myself in family court for the next 12 years.
It's not easy staying steady through this. It is even MORE difficult to have to do things that, as a man, would not normally be in my core values. On the other hand, to roll over and do nothing would be suicidal with regards to having parenting time with my children.
There would be too many candles to put on my cake (I prefer vanilla layer cake, buttercream, with yellow cake).
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
