I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[Quart9]

The stuff that's actually worth doing is counterintuitive.

Yep, I see this as being true now.

Do I wait until she is served before I expose? Should I wait until the spousal support portion of all this gets started and then use exposure as a bargainning chip? Like don't contest this unless you want everyone important to you to know you are a cheater. Or should I just get busy exposing?

If you don't expose the affair to W's family first she will do this again and make you look very bad to them.

I don't get it this? Like she will cheat on someone else and I will lok bad for not telling them the first time? Or she will cheat on me again?