WAW continues to send mixed messages and continues with actions that condradict each other.
Yesterday she came over for the usual Sunday shopping and dinenr with S18 - D18 was away for the day. WAW told me that she is going to mvoe to a 2 bedroom apt starting April 1st, which extends any possible reconciliation date by 4 months.
Yet...when she came over yesterday I was having a nap. She came into my bedroom (used to be ours)which is my only private space in the house. I guess she felt that was ok, since I was at her apartment last week. She lied down beside me when I invited and that led to a little play. No sex - but some play.
Again, yesterday she said she wants to go away together in spring. I'm not sure that is a smart idea financially or in other way. Things are certainly going well between us, but at some point I should force her to make a choice.
But....she's the kind of person that when pushed will choose to the opposite of what she knows I want.
Yeesh!!!!!!
you say you want to force her to make a choice, you don't get it, this is your choice, not hers. When you're ready to move on, move on and if that means leaving her behind, so be it, that will be your choice, you are a man, you don't wait for someone else to act to make your move, you make your move when YOU want to do it.
You can't force someone to do anything and even if you could, they would resent you for it.
Plus you answered your own question, she would do the opposite of what you want her to do.
She wants to go on a trip with you, do it, if you can. If you have a ton of cash burning a hole in your pocket, go for it especially if it's really just the two of you and she wants to spend time with you without the kids.
If you're strapped for cash, find out what the cost of the trip is and ask her if this is something she wants to chip in for or if this is something she wants you to pay for.
Mind you, is this trip a for sure thing?
Or is it just talk right now?
If it's just talk, don't read too much into it, when she brings up the discussion, tell her a few places you would like to go to (seriously, places you would like to go to) and then ask her where she would like to go.
Do you know why she needs a 2 bedroom apartment? Why the extra bedroom? Is she planning on getting a roommate? Ask her, you have nothing to lose.
