Quote: LL, I would be climbing the damn walls. start out climbing the walls...waiting...it snows...h isn't home a couple night (or at least not til after I go to sleep) so I take care of myself...more time passes...I ask for a real kiss (and do get one, foolishly thinking that will lead to more that evening...no such luck, make mention of it (the service engine soon comment) still nothing, make comment on the still being nothing, he gets pissy, still nothing...
What is his response to why it is taking so long to attend to your needs? uhm? no response other than to act like I didn't say anything about it and since I've stopped the continual pissing and moaning about it that's pretty easy for him to do. The bad thing about this is now when you finally DO get some, you will be so pissed off the entire time that it will be hard to enjoy it. Hmph. exactly!! and this is something that I've explained to him as well. I would be much more into it when it finally did occur if I wasn't so flabergasted at the fact that it's occuring! Wtf is he thinkin. my guess? He's not thinking...or he's thinking it'll be there when he's good and ready for it so he doesn't have to go for it when he's only kinda in the mood, or a little tired etc. Thus why I think ldw's have it made!
January, no sex. February, once. March, no sex. I have not kissed the wife on the lips since early last summer. Might as well be living with a corpse, I really see no difference.
January, no sex. February, once. March, no sex. I have not kissed the wife on the lips since early last summer. Might as well be living with a corpse, I really see no difference.
Cemar,
at different phases in my m h would go MONTHS without initiating much more than the obligatory peck goodbye or hello. Then of course he was one of those "not while your preg" kind of guys so there's 9 months of nothing each time...and well hmmm? he didn't initiate anything either time til the kids were @ 4 months old...so 9 + 4 = over a freakin year with not so much as a passionate kiss? ok ok justfied with preg (on his behalf cause I was more than willing!)
it's all just rotten isn't it.
I'm sure h will initiate or accept soon...thing is I'm again reaching a point where I almost don't want him to bother anymore as I find it insulting...oh sure when he's ready.
Wow, LL, do WE have a lot in common! Except that at least W had the excuse that SHE was the one who was preg, and then b'feeding, and tired, and all that - and, yes, for each kid, more than a year (18 months, at least once) without so much as a fondle...
now see this is what happens (and yes I'm well aware of the fact that this is the role I play in the cycle) h and I are to go out tonight, testing out a new babysitter. because it has been OVER 3 weeks since "anything" and we have gone out in that three weeks I don't really want to go out with him tonight. In fact I feel like just going off to the movies by myself or shopping by myself or just getting in the car and driving by myself.
But instead I go...I put on a happy face...make small talk and perhaps enjoy myself and realize I made the right decision for going anyway...but then the kicker...I start to feel like we are connecting like things are warming up that perhaps there will be "something" when we get home and then again I am dissapointed.
Oh well...tis the price we pay I guess. Suppose I should just be happy to go out with h for an enjoyable evening and leave it at that. Who needs sex anyway .
Who needs sex any way? I do!!! Sorry, I am just in a piss ass mood today. Tried to initiate ML again this AM. H is too busy... needs to wash the car (it's raining) and have stuff to do; OK, I say not getting mad at all, "how about tonight?"....NCAA, and there are great games on tonight; OK I say getting a little testy but remembering he loves Bball "Lets set a date for tomorrow AM"....I am playing golf remember.... Ok, now mad as hell, "tomorrow afternoon"...the kids have music lessons and soccer....Ok, now feeling complete and total rejection but still willing, "How about tomorrow night"... we'll see. So I get a we'll see. Like a carrot dangling from a stick. An hour later he says "I just don't understand why you're mad????????????????????
Guys, I, too, have only had sex once so far this year. I jerk off into the sheets every night before going to sleep. I am just as frustrated as you are. I don't really know, any more than you do, whether W will REALLY make progress with her end or not. At the moment, I am optimistic, but you know how quickly THAT can change.
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