When she was getting this "under the table" money, didn't you benefit as well? I mean, even if she used it to help to buy diapers, clothes and things, you are a part conspirator. So even if you did put in an anonymous tip, you're essentially opening yourself up to litigation as well.
They are going to look at your books as well. Everything that you've purchased, car, house, books, whatever would come into play because you lived together.
I really do feel for you. We all do. We understand the pain of rejection and how much we would have wanted some kind of justice or remorse against our partners. But you gotta look at the bigger picture.
Look at how to get custody of your D if that's what you want and not because you want your W to suffer not having her D. Fix your place up and make it a "home".
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.