I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[GH31]

Quart9,

This is what gucci loafer posted to sportsfan33:

If you want to know how good exposure works, then study the Tiger Woods story. Look how far he is going to repair his marriage since exposure....

I posted to you a few days ago that much of what you learn here will be counterintuitive.

The stuff that's actually worth doing is counterintuitive.

Expose W's affair to her family. Tell them calmly and matter of factly and end the conversation.

She eventually would respect me for exposing the affair?

Yes.

Do you think Tiger Woods is taking his wife more seriously now that his infidelities are out in the open, or less seriously?

I have been pondering the idea of exposing their affair. My attorney told me that if I ever wanted to reconcile with her I should not do it

How much experience does your attorney have in saving marriages?

Is your attorney a counsellor specialising in recovering marriages?

I'm sure your attorney is an expert on legal matters.

but I'm not really worried about reconciliation now.

I understand that Quart9, but that may change in time. You have many more extreme emotions to cycle through yet.

Still, you must file first, expose your wife's cheating and protect yourself.

I'm sure my W has portrayed herself as a victim in all of this and I'm the a$$hole.

Your W will already have done this - at least to herself to justify her cheating. If you don't expose the affair to W's family first she will do this again and make you look very bad to them.

We have all been there with this Quart9

Why would you even possibly feel like the other man's wife should be the ONLY one of the four of you affected, to NOT know the truth of what's going on? So that she can make whatever decisions she feels are best for herself and her family?

Puppy is right.

OM W is still his W and she has the right to know the truth. This is about OM W as well, and if your W tells her family about OM first she will spin and manipulate the situation and facts mercilessly.

Hang in there.

GH31