DU, Not all MLCers will want a divorce. Some will just float along and then one day they realize it's time to wake up. Others who have a lot, and I mean a lot of guilt, will want to file immediately.
You are the only one that can determine when you have had enough. No one else can tell you this. This journey is between you and your husband and your family should not be a third party in it. Your husband is on his on individual journey, just as you are now. Your journey is very important, it is one of learning and rediscovering the person you really are. You will rediscover the things that you use to love to do and learn to smile once again. BUT, you have to do the work to get there.
Live your life to the fullest while he's gone. There are no guarantees that he will return, therefore, you must learn to apply each and every lesson that you learn here to make your way int he world and learn how bring forth the happiness within you. No one else can do that for you. If your h should wake up some years down the road and wants to catch w/you, ultimately, you will be the one to determine whether you have grown by leaps and bounds and there is no place for him in your life or you want to reconcile and try again.
Again, it will be your decision how and where your journey will take you in the interim.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
