Thank you flowmom and HC for the warm welcome! Ditto to the recommendation to get the book. As much as we can all spout the principles as an encouragement to you, nothing takes the place of you reading it yourself and personally interpreting it in the midst of your situation. I always recommend my coaching clients read with a pen so they can jot notes in the margins (unless it is a library book of course !!)
As for your comment:
Originally Posted By: HallesComment
Here's what I do knw....I want my family to not be in crisis. Not sure what to do to get us out of that?? I am happy that there is aplace such as this, where perfect strangers will take the time to listen to my crazy thoughts and care about my sitch. It makes me cry everythime I see a post and I know there is some good in this world I am living in right now!
Your family is in crisis right now and the only way out of crisis is to go through it. I think this forum does a phenomenal job of giving you (at least in part) some of the tools to walk through the crisis and do it well. Your children are seeing modeled for them the value of making good and healthy choices in the midst of crappy (hope I can say that here) circumstances. While you cannot change the choices your H makes, you can change your own reactions - the words you choose, the manner in which you handle your emotions, the things you choose to model to your kids about relationships as a whole. Remember, we are all cheering you on!
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