Bipolar Spouse

[SweetCyborg]

I'm very glad I found this forum. MY WAW has been diagnosed BiPolar/BPD a while back had an affair two years ago, had a suicide attempt (saying I was 'guilting' her), lived with OM for a month or so, then came back a year ago, and just now left again saying she's "done" because she felt I could never get over the affair and we had a couple of big fights over the last year.

I'm new to DB and wish I'd read about this when we first got back together last year. I did almost everything wrong.

She went off her meds (trying St. John's Wort, DBT, meditation), still works w/ OM which occasionally would make me suspicious though I stopped snooping.

This latest eruption, walk-away, saying she's "done" talking about the Big D, came a day after she was planning our vacation??

A month after we bought a fancy new TV and had a great holiday.

If that doesn't strike everyone as 'bipolar' behavior. I just want to scream at her family WAKE UP!! She needs more help... this is crazy. I have been there every step for her and now SHE'S the one walking away?

Guh. So sad.