1. Don't tell her you understand she might need to move on (or any variation of the phrase...) To me it's saying move on, any way it's worded.
2. The changes you are making should be solely for you. A bonus would be if your wife sees the changes and realizes you are not all talk.
Keep your chin up, make the appointment, and fill her in on what you think is going on, when your appointment is, and if you feel comfortable, invite her along to share her insights.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
