Quote: So here is my question: My H seems to only remember that I have needs when I get mad. My anger or disappointment is the catalyst for him to start even THINKING about what I might be needing. Other than that, he is happy as a stinkin clam and has no idea that I am getting more and more desperate as the days go by.
So does the love language thing really work? When only one person is doing it...and the other is happy as can be...what is THEIR motivation to fill the other one's tank? They are happy as can be and are thinking to themselves that their life is just about perfect.
I am constantly remebering a little convo that h and I had before we were married. H moved back home for the months before we were to be wed (he had been living with a buddie who was selling the house and moving to another so instead of moving yet again with buddie he went home to save money) he was living in a basement room that mom set up for him, cleaned for him, made the bed for him etc. I once asked him why he'd let her do it? his response? "it makes her happy" hmmm? it makes her happy to do it? he was kinda right...yes it does make us (speaking of us women who do cook and clean etc) happy to do such things but that doesn't mean we don't want/need something in return or that you should just think we are simply happy because we are allowed to do things for ya.
seems to be a bad case of time warp.
decades ago it was supposedly enough for a woman to have a man to cook and clean for, to buy socks for to raise children for, to make a home for. That was supposed to be enough. Thing is, it's not.
As far as the ld in men? I'm starting to think that ld women have it made!
tommorow it will be a definite 3 weeks with no action, I can only say definite 3 weeks cause I don't recall the exact time prior to not getting any two saturday nights ago when we went out..so heck it could be 4 weeks. SAD!
