here's the thing...she agreed not to expose the kids to OM and has not complied with that (legally unenforceable)agreement so what recourse do you have? Way I see it, not much. Hence the sigh...but then, OTOH in her eyes she probably didn't "expose" them b/c there were others and to her, expose means them seeing her "WITH" OM...I mean, we are all mind reading here but why not mind read in her favor now and then?
I think your only option is hoping this runs its' course without doing irreparable damage and for most people who's spouses are having A's, that is it...they hope and wait until they cannot any longer and they aim to contain the damage, though some say "Screw that" and aim to inflict damage. I had a neighbor who's H had an A and when she found out, she kcked him out of the house but demanded HE tell the kids he was choosing OW although he was not sure what he wanted at the time. Point his, w's anger got so out of hand ( I know, I get it. It's damn hard to keep it under control, but she did not put her children ahead of her anger...) anyhow, she pushed him into the arms of OW whereas MAYBE he might not have made that choice. She forced her kids to choose sides and while they did choose her, they loved their dad and when they turned 18 could not wait to spend time with him or get away from her....sad really. She freaked....
Don't know why I"m posting this to you. Word to the wise? Hmm, no, you don't remind me of her but what the heck, I'll leave it out here.
More later, gotta go. J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
