Quote: All I know is I'd love it if h were half as interested as he was when he first came home. I mean then it was every day, he couldn't keep his hands off of me, tried to sit on the same couch as me but couldn't without wanting to touch me sexually. It was massages every night (every night that he was here anyway) sometimes in the morning. I'd get a passionate kiss when I'd go out and sometimes just because. He'd try to get in the shower with me or pull me in the shower with him. I could kiss him any time I wanted and really kiss him with no hesitation. Now suddenly it's all up to him again. I sense sometimes that he's interested but is hesitant to make a move so doesn't and yet when I make a move am turned down. It's creating a tension that existed before he left and I know where that led so why can't he see it? Why can't marriage just be easy?
LL,
Thats totally mind boggling. How can someones libido just come and go like that is beyond me. I am sure you are just as puzzled and hurting too. Maybe your H too does not have a clue or if he is he's not telling. That sucks. Our having to guess why, why, WHY???!!! Honestly, I could live without, but its hard to live with their avoidance of the issue.
Why does he choose to ignore the issue? Why when I make mention of it, does he get pissy, claim he's too busy to talk about it at the moment and then continue to act like I never mentioned it and still do nothing about it?
