My advice to you is that you DO look at your part. It doesn't take one person to make a marriage fail or succeed. If you are ready to throw in the towel after five years, and give up on your children, be ready to accept all that entails.
I'll tell you that until you are divorced you can't imagine the repercussions to your children.
I read on another thread that you all have been married for 5 years, with a 5 year old and a 2 year old. How long did you date before you got married?
And I think that as far as an unpopular decision based on replies to your thread, when you join divorce busting, and say you're filing for divorce, you should expect that.
The other reasons we chimed in weren't because of the divorce but your attitude towards your wife and children.
KS, long story short, I have some confidence issues to work through before I'll ever date again if we go through with divorce. I didn't have the confidence as a younger man to marry someone close to me as far as background went. I put those types of women on a pedestal and put my foot in my mouth on every date. Once out of school, my job put me in locations that were far away from large population centers and in places where women with my educational background and life experiences are not found.
I settled for someone who I thought (based on dating for only a couple months following a years-long "telephone relationship") was acceptable from religious, personality, and other imporant standpoints. We shared a hobby at that time and had planned to build a life together around that hobby (as much as work/children allowed).
After children, and after increasing work responsibilities, I've found other hobbies that are less expensive and less time consuming.
At any rate, the clock was ticking. Friends from college had been married for years and were having children, and in my early 30s I was still single and simply not meeting the type of woman who was very similar to me background-wise and education-wise. Elected to date wife for a couple months and married as soon as the pastor had an opening on his calendar.
Regarding time... We've been married nearly six years, with a child who just turned five and a two year old.
These things don't matter to you. It is apparent I am the recipient of your special attention for whatever reason, despite the fact there are others on this very board who have come from similar backgrounds and received support--not abuse--from other members here. As a reminder, not everyone here salvages his or her marriage, and some divorce for lesser reasons than others.
