How do I expose the affair

[flowmom]

I have to agree with AA, the wrong therapist may do more harm than good. If I was lucky enough to get to pick an IC for H, I would want to see them for myself and quiz them on their beliefs. I also recommend getting a male therapist. IME, it was too easy to discount our female MC's input -- he didn't see her as an authority figure. He needed an alpha male type (which is not that common among counselors).

I hope that your H's willingness to address his anger is a positive step in your M. I can't imagine what you are going through and send hugs.

PS: GAL????