the only way I see the Love Language concept working when only one person is speaking the others (ie us speaking theirs but them not speaking ours or not as often as we'd like) is that knowing (or at least understanding) that there are different means of expressing love and affection. Learning what languages our spouse speaks and listening and showing appreciation for the message sent. It helps to releive some of the anger and frustration over not being spoken to our way but you are right it's not a solution to the problem unless/until the other partner fully grasps the concept themselves and begins to speak our language in return or heck at least allowing us to speak our own language once in a while to them.
