LL, You brought something up that I have been wondering about lately. Hope you don't mind that I hijack your thread to ask it.
The love language concept...I'm not sure it works! I mean, I am a lot like you. I do everything for my H and I do mean everything. He has very few responsibilities in our household and the only thing that I have ever asked of him is sex/passion/desire. Which is streaky. Sometimes I'm getting so much sex, I'm getting sick of it (is that possible, lol) and other times I am just barely hanging on by a thread.
So here is my question: My H seems to only remember that I have needs when I get mad. My anger or disappointment is the catalyst for him to start even THINKING about what I might be needing. Other than that, he is happy as a stinkin clam and has no idea that I am getting more and more desperate as the days go by.
So does the love language thing really work? When only one person is doing it...and the other is happy as can be...what is THEIR motivation to fill the other one's tank? They are happy as can be and are thinking to themselves that their life is just about perfect.
I just can't seem to think of a way to remedy this.
