I AM worried about my little girl now more than ever. My ex, in her new desire to be a supportive mom to D3, sends me a text message asking if D3 needs anything.
In the more than two months since she left, she hasnt given me a dime of support (even though I've had primary custody of D3) nor has she given me anything for D3 like food or training/pull up pants...but now that the proceedings have started she's trying to do all the things she should have been doing all along.
So she first asks me about getting pull ups for D3 that are the wrong kind. D3 wears the night time ones even during the day due to where she's at in potty training. So once I inform her of the right kind to buy, she then comes back saying they dont have her size...and the size she wanted to buy her was the wrong size!!! Her excuse was "oh I thought we bought the 4-5t ones because the other ones were too tight."
I told her that the (3-4t) ones fit just fine, and that if they're too loose they could end up leaking, and that if the 4-5t was the size she has been using over at her dads house then thats why D3's pull ups keep leaking and her pants get wet.
Come on...in these papers I was served it stated that she had "been the primary caregiver" of D3 (a lie) and she could "provide her with the love and affection" D3 needs...and she knows neither the right kind nor size of training pants she uses?
Then when my ex gets here to drop off D3, she starts talking about D3's first day of preschool tomorrow and how she bought her a bookbag and new pants and socks. (fun stuff...a bookbag...still no pull ups or other real necessities though)
My ex had a hissy fit the other day because D3 was wearing red socks that didnt match her outfit. I told her that the only other socks D3 had to wear were the short ones that my ex bought for her and buys for herself. So my ex snippily remakred that she guessed she'd have to buy her some long socks then.
At any rate, I start pulling stuff out of the shopping back, and when I get the socks out...it's another thing of 6 pairs of the low cut socks! I was beside myself. I asked her "you got her more low cut socks...in the middle of winter...when I specifically told you she needed more long socks to wear?" Her response was "oh I guess I grabbed the wrong pair off the shelf."
And this is not new behavior for my ex. Both she and her father have frequently gotten stuff for D3 that wasnt appropriate...either for her age...giving a 1 or 2 year old things with small parts that say for 3 or 4 and up. Her father even bought D3 boys clothes as a birthday present, despite them being over in the boys section and have a tag that said boys on them.
Another bonus that happened today...because of all the running around my ex and D3 did today trying to frind the wrong training pants, my ex didnt have time to wash D3's clothes before she brought her back like she's done the past week since her L probably advised her to start doing it. My ex's father and her fathers girlfriend smoke like a chimney, and when D3 comes back she always needs a bath and clean clothes because they smell like a bar.
Before I was served I didnt think to bag up the smokey clothes as evidence and after she started washing them I was afraid I wouldnt get another chance. But I did today...and the saddest part was, with all the running around they did today theres no way D3 couild have been at that house for more than 2 hours total but the clothes and D3's hair still stunk something awful. And if my ex gets primary/full custody of D3...I shudder to think what her little lungs are going to look like in a year of secondhand smoke exposure.
If my ex keeps this up...and I hope she does...its unlikely that any of of the crap I've been going on about over the last page or two will be necessary. Because then not only will I have been able to fight for D3...but I will have done so on somewhat of the high road.
