What about planning an "adult" weekend away. You, H, a couple of bottles of champagne, gourmet snacks, and a hot tub suite. My W and I do this about twice a year to reconnect . No really, we travel about an hour from home and stay at a reasonaly priced hotel that is right next to an outlet mall. We go out for dinner at some very nice places and the hotel breakfast is amazing. I usually wake up before my W and bring breakfast back to the room for her. Breakfast in bed and I didn't even have to cook . We take our time waking up, hit the hot tub full of bubble bath (be careful not to over-suds the room, kind of hard to explain that to the hotel management ), then hit the mall for the afternoon. We go out to dinner and the clubs for some dancing and then back to the hot tub to unwind.

All of the above is what makes it a "reconnect" weekend. My W really appreciates that I shop, dance, and don't mind just "talking". This is not R talk time at all! We reminisce about the good days, talk about our sons, our jobs, all things positive, no negatives allowed. It works for us.

Maybe a change of venue would help your H rediscover you.