Whatnow I don't know if I am completely on side in this case about too much counselling... I think it depends on the ROUTE the therapist takes. If the therapist focusses on HOPE for the marriage FIRST as I suggested, and educating the husband about infidelity VERY SOON AFTER THAT... and KEEPS on that road until No CONTACT is volunteered the therapy can be very beneficial.
That is what I was trying to say. Marriage counseling = repairing/healing the marriage vs. counseling that focuses on the here and now of the affair. Allen, your steps are excellent.
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