Gosh, I picked this up from what you've posted and I could have written any of these myself!
he doesn't complain about anything but my complaining.
it is very unlikely that h a) knows why or b) will tell me why.
I've offered possible reasons for him to pick and choose from and still nothing.
..honesty would be far less hurtful than saying nothing or claiming ignorance.
I mean how, since asking directly, indirectly, ultimatums etc don't get me an answer or solution?
From the looks of it your H is just in total denial like mine. I too have tried to communicate directly, indirectly, threatened, cried my heart out, be nice and not pressure, etc etc. I suppose being the HDW is harder as the LD men feels more threatened by any suggestion of their mate's dissatisfaction than would a LDW.
There are many possibilities for his lower drive (only they're not telling ) and for most males they are scary to look at. Denial is usually the first line of defense. Thats why you have the "I dunno" answers. It just doesn't feel right to a man to admit he may not be sexually adequate to meet his wife's needs. After all men like to think of themselves as real studs (whatever that means).
So then how exactly do we resolve the issue since we can't even communicate about it. Any males out there would like to try to decipher this one out? A males POV would be good though its unlikely that we're going to get any LDH posting here for insight. Sigh.
) and for most males they are scary to look at. Denial is usually the first line of defense. Thats why you have the "I dunno" answers. It just doesn't feel right to a man to admit he may not be sexually adequate to meet his wife's needs. After all men like to think of themselves as real studs (whatever that means).
