Quote: Quote: --------- So, where are we going with these questions? ---------
I learned a simple lesson long ago. Anytime something, anything becomes a mystery, you have missed something simple. well I aint Nancy Drew so it's a mystery to me. Thing is it SHOULD be pretty simple but from where I'm sitting it isn't. Unfortunately, it took a while for me to apply that to my own marriage, even though it serves me well on a daily basis in other areas of my life.
So my point is this; What is it that he is holding against you, in simple terms. I simply don't know and he's not giving me any clues.
If you are indeed attractive physically and/or mentally, and he is functioning normally, then he is making a choice not to pursue you. and that's a smart choice now isn't it! most men that I've run into in my life that discover this about my h say straight out that he's nuts.
Maybe he is intimidated by you. that's a possibility Maybe that is why he had to have an affair - to prove his worth elsewhere. needed the cheerleading from an immature juvenille other mans wife? as far as we all know there was nothing physical going on there either. Maybe he feels that he will never measure up to your standards. those are HIS assumptions...I know for fact (experience has shown) that he is more than capable and then some.
Don't let his motivations become a mystery to you. Make him tell you what the real reason is, then do something about it. and how exactly do I MAKE him tell me? do I sit on him? tie him up and put a light on him? stick bamboo under his finger nails? I mean how, since asking directly, indirectly, ultimatums etc don't get me an answer or solution?
