Wow whatnow, I had NO IDEA a professional therapist would be so CALLOUS as to invite the oteher woman into therapy.. that's ridiculous.

When Phil McGraw does infidelity segments on his show he won't let the Other Woman or Other man ANYWHERE NEAR the couple... he has offered to send tapes to the interloping party so they can see the damage they have done, but he almost NEVER invites them into the segment ... he feels the couple's marriage is NONE of the predator's business... which is certainly ISN'T!!!

Again MB28, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do NOT send your husband to someone unless you know EXACTLY what they are going to say and do... this is MISSION CRITICAL that if you hand your husband over you need to KNOW they are in good hands.

The probelm with the family therapist is they are a visible authority... if your H gets bad advice from a visible authority it will be almost IMPOSSIBLE for you to change his mind at that point. Getting bad advice from a friend you can possibly convince your H is not the way to go, but when your H goes to a professional and is told to end his marriage... you are almost SUNK at that point... unless your H is able to recongize the FT is a quack... but if they tell him what he wants to hear, he will accept them at face value...

Do NOT trust your therapist any more than you trust the OW!