Thank you everyone. The therapist I'm sending him too, is very pro-marriage and uses solution-based therapy. She does also have experience with addiction. I also read on her site that she holds seminars, one of which talks about saving your M, something about couples in crisis.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10