Thanks guys! Wow! 'Sacking up' here. Your responses and suggestions were exactly what I needed. I was so close to responding as per usual...
RobX that Rocky quote is as good as tattooed on my brain, thanks for that... so true. Hadn't seen the 'film'
I think I'll decided NOT to respond at all which is a complete 180 of what I would ordinarily do! I'm very communicative, and always take every opportunity (even when she's not threatening D) to write, respond, etc.
I think she's anxious to get back into the house and have me 'disappear' so she doesn't have to deal with me, the sitch, or the pain.
Thanks again ALL!!!!!!!! I am SO grateful to you, and hope to give back when I gain more strength.
Eternal optimist
LBS (me):48 WAW:44 Married:11 T: 16 Separated: 02/10/10 Separated: one year first time, two years ago Sitch: http://bit.ly/baqySm