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[Quart9]

Hey BigJake. We have a few similarities in our sitch's. You and I and our W's are all the same age too - crazy. You are lucky though - you have a son.

Take the meds religiously and try to do your best to GAL right now. You'll see on here where people say you should only believe half of what your W says. She will feed you full of BS about OM and what she is doing, but here's the thing - if you get busted spying and following her (I think we all do this in some way - I'm guilty of it) or stalking OM you jeopardize being able to have contact with your son.

I've been advised that it is really easy for W's to get a restraining order against us. If her friends are saying stuff like they are afraid you will hurt him - that doesn't help you. Plus, it doesn't just have to be from physically following them either. If you call too much, text too much, bother them on FB -whatever- if they feel threatened then they can go after the RO. If she gets an RO against you and you do have to go to court they are not gonna see this as a good thing when deciding custody.

Protect yourself man and go see a lawyer too - find out your rights. I finally did it and I am so freak'n glad I did. I would not close your shared bank account completely, but I think you should consider opening another account and putting most of your money in there. Leave funds in the joint account and tell her those are there to benefit your son - not for wedding presents and weekend getaways.

The first response you got from Gypsy may have included the best advice you have received yet. I (and many of us) have been in your spot - your hurt, your emotional, but don't be irrational. Improve yourself. Look around here for advice on other people's threads. Check out the books people suggest on here. Others will be by here to help you too.