Originally Posted By: trytryagain
helping me move the things that my H SHOULD have been helping me move.


Didn't you say that you didn't want to ask him? If you're just venting, I understand. You might want to deal with this issue with your IC just to make sure it doesn't creep back up during a text message or something.

I hadn't even thought of it, but if he did come to help, I wonder what it would be like if you had to watch him carrying around great (and not so great) memories. He offered if I remember correctly, so that is good~

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does seem to at least acknowledge his mistakes and isn't giving me the "i don't see us together in ten years" talk anymore.


Hold on to that!

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it doesn't feel like home at all, but i didn't really expect it to.


One thing I noticed as W and I go through these tough, emotional times is that home is so much more than walls. It must be hard to know you're leaving a home, but not knowing if the new walls, his new walls, or something else will become a warm home to relax in. Whatever comes though, it sounds like you are trying hard to be ready for it. Have you decided to do your best in your new place to make that a home, or just shelter?

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had to fill out an application to extend my lease and had a really hard time checking the "separated" box next to marital status.


They should have a box saying, "improving my M, one day at a time"

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nothing filed yet, either. not sure how to feel about that, but i'm not going to ask about it.


Unless you wanted it, feel great about it. It means that he isn't where he was when you did your post signature. Maybe it should say something like, "we are now owning up to a lot of things and making hope, but not yet guarantees"

I hope you get a chance to do that skating thing before the ice melts! It sounded like fun~