WAH in MLC with PA

[DiamondGirl]

What are you feeling when you know your husband is with OW? Are you feeling rejected, abandoned, not good enough, unloveable, disrespected?

I know for me my feelings were many of the above ones I listed. It was not about my XW and what she was doing, it was about what I was feeling that was so painful.

These feelings were very familiar to me as they were the same feelings I experience as a child. The painful emotions had resurface all over again and opened up all past wounds that have been left unhealed.

I just read the above in the MLC Archives - it was from a post by M Go Blue

I wondered after reading it, if that is an example of what I need to work on for myself? Isn't it normal or healthy to have those feelings when, in fact, you are left for OP? Or is it unhealthy to feel that way? I really identify with the above because that's what I feel when I think of WAH/OW...

I'm trying to get a handle on what is healthy feeling and what are things I need to work on... I wasn't raised with much affection or emotion, so it's like learning a new language to me..