Thanks all. I thought about going over to fltc's thread but I'm not sure I want or need to read about more suffering at the hands of an unhappy spouse.

I can guarantee all that STBXW will doing EVERYTHING possible to besmirch me and make me look like a bad husband/father. I'm going to have to have a teflon skin. I've seen STBXW in court in front of judges before....they get weak knee'd. Big bad professional hiding money in off shore accounts. Poor blue collar blond haired blue eyed cute mom.

I don't look forward to going under the microscope in public, but, it's a journey I must go thru to close this door. I just want it done and to start over. NY divorce laws really hurt people.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;