Holy Crap! Didn't expect THIS!

[Trixi]

I knew if I posted here I could get some help!! (I told him I thought we should go to retro agin- he blanched- I said 'no no,not the weekend, just the posts' and he was visibly relieved.)
He is overwhelmed right now with EVERYTHING (work; how long he has; does he get a serverance; kicking out his roommate; starting to look for a different job) and wants to take things slow. (At first I thought he meant months and months and he clarified that he means just for this first week.)

I called my friend last night who had told me to watch Serious Moonlight- (which I also recommend because it gives a LBS some hope) and so I thought for sure, he would say "yeah, not the perfect way to start, but go for it." Instead, he did what I know my family will do and anyone else that cares about me... They will say that my H is "just using me". Heck, that thought crossed my mind too.

My friend kept saying that it's a terrible reason to get back together, despite my pointing out that my H has been on the fence for years and that my H is calling this the lightening bolt he needed.

My family will have a caniption fit. My mother will have a total meltdown and say that I am disrespecting myself and worse. And she will totally throw my H under the bus.

Am I right to think that God is using "bad" things for the overall good? If H had been gone and then come back out of the blue with a story about the Universe not letting him leave as evidenced by the job situation, *then* I would tell him 'sorry Charlie'. But, as he himself pointed out, he obviously does love me because he has never been able to really leave. And that he feels like he needs to just "give in to it" and actually make it work and stop fighting it.

..but everyone will say "why now???" and then if I say "because he's going thru a job change and the kids need us" and then they will say "that's the worst reason in the world to get back together." And, on the face of it, I totally agree!

I am scared sh!tless. Seriously. And I really am afraid of dealing with how my family and friends are going to react.